Love’s Only Hope In This World – A Sermon On Matthew 22:34-46

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Proper 25A – Matthew 22:34-46

Hands – Reach Out and Touch by Paul Howard, Flickr, CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind,” and “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:34-46)

These, Jesus says, are the two commandments on which everything else hangs. They are two sides of the same thing. You can’t truly have one without the other. This is about more than our feelings or affection for God and one another. It’s about our commitment to the life and well-being of the other. It’s a choice we make every day – to love or not to love. 

I wonder what that love looks like. I wonder what your life and my life would be like if we held those two commandments as the guiding principles for all we do. I wonder what we might create and achieve if we embodied and lived those commandments.  

Here’s another way of getting at what I am asking. What kind of world do you want to live in? What kind of world do you want for your children, grandchildren, and those who will come after you? What are your best wishes and hopes for the future of the world, our country, this city? What do you pray for when you look at everything that is happening today? 

Here are some of the things I want, wish, and pray for. I want a world that is founded on human dignity and respect for one another. I want a world in which people come first, a world in which principles and policies support people rather than agendas. I want justice for all and not just those who can afford it, who have power, or who have the right color of skin. 

I want a world in which different religions and beliefs are valued and viewed as a means for all to meet the Divine. I want a world in which diversity and difference are celebrated rather than oppressed, a world in which people and nations are at peace with themselves and one another. I want a world in which we face and learn from our past, mistakes, and failures so that we can do and be better.

I want a world in which everyone has living wage employment, educational opportunities, access to healthcare, safe and decent housing; enough to eat. I want a world in which the first, maybe even the only, judgment we make is that the needs, concerns, sorrows, hopes, dreams, and lives of others matter as much as our own.  

Don’t you want those same things too? Isn’t that the kind of world you want to live in and pass on to the next generation? What else would you add to my list? 

Ultimately, that list points to a world in which we love God, and our neighbor as ourselves. We say that’s what we want, but is it really? Do we really believe those are the two commandments on which everything else hangs? Are they really what orient the direction of our hearts and determine the things to which we give our time, money, and energy?

I want to say yes to those questions but I’m just not so sure any more. I look at what’s happening in our country today and I’m not sure we fully believe or live those two commandments. If we did, wouldn’t our world be different? 

  • How could we separate children from their parents and possibly never reunite them? 
  • How did wearing a mask became more a political statement than an act of love for the well-being of our neighbor?
  • Why do we seem more energized by blame, name calling, and finger pointing than working together for a solution? 
  • We claim to be the greatest democracy in the world and yet there is growing concern for increased anger and hatred after our presidential election regardless of who wins.
  • How did I get to be sixty years old and just now begin to study and learn the history of systemic racism in our country and its current manifestations? 

“Love God,” Jesus says. Yes, but what is it that I love when I say I love God? (St. Augustine) Have you ever thought about that? I can’t help but wonder if nationalism, individual rights, and self interest have displaced God as our first love. If God was our first love wouldn’t God’s concerns, dreams, and hopes for the world be ours too? A wise man once told me, “We love others best when we love God first and most.” 

“Love your neighbor,” Jesus says. Yes, it’s a value I claim to hold in my life. It’s something I teach and preach. And yet, I don’t even know the names of the people who live across the street or two houses down from mine. How could I possibly know their hurts, hopes, or needs? What about you? How are you loving your neighbor?

One of the things I know about myself, and maybe this is true for you too, is that I can always find the time, money, and energy for the things that really matter to me. And regardless of how much I have I will never have enough time, money, and energy for the things that don’t matter to me. I hope you know that I’m not talking about the quantity of my hours or dollars, but the quality and shape of my commitments.

When I look at my wish list and listen to my prayers for the world I have to ask myself, “What am I doing to bring that world into existence?” What are you doing? It’s not enough to only want, wish, or pray for that world. Love is a verb, an action.

I’m afraid those two great commandments have become like an old favorite song. The tune has been so overplayed that it no longer calls us to the dance floor. The words are so familiar that we no longer hear them. We’ve lost our passion for the music. We still like the song but we’re no longer singing it, and if we are it’s only for the God who comforts, affirms, and comes through for us; only for the neighbor who looks, acts, thinks, worships, and votes like us.  

I don’t know what that is but that’s not love. The love Jesus speaks about is all or nothing. We love God first or not at all. We love everyone or no one. “The only measure of love is love without measure” (Caputo, On Religion, 4).

What if you asked someone, “Do you love me?” And after a long and awkward pause and considerable deliberation he or she said, “Well, up to a certain point, under certain conditions, to a certain extent, yes, I do.” You have your answer and it’s not what you wanted to hear. We all know that’s not love. (Ibid., 4)

“The mark of really loving someone or something is unconditionality and excess, engagement and commitment, fire and passion.” (Ibid., 5)

Where is that today in your life, my life, and the life of our country and this city? Who is the recipient of that love and who is not? And what would it take for you and me to expand the circle of our loving? Do we even want to?

I really struggled with today’s gospel and this sermon. It would have been so much easier, and certainly less risky, to preach a sentimental, feel good, ain’t-love-great kind of sermon. But that would have been a betrayal of Jesus, you, and myself. So you got what you got. 

I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if you’re asking, “So what’s the hope in this sermon?” And you’d be right to ask that question. I asked myself that exact question. And here’s my answer: You are, I am. 

You and I are the hope that runs throughout this sermon. You and I are the hope of the next generation. You and I are the hope for our country and this city. 

You and I are love’s only hope in this world. 


  1. The heft of the question is in how much energy and time and willingness we have to love our neighbors, as we are trying to love God with all our strength. We always fall short, but we are not to give up, we are loved as we are, and that is a gift. I love a prayer taught by a good pastor to a busy and tired mom: “Lord you know what they need, and you know what I can give. Please make up the difference!”

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  2. This is the first time you’ve sounded rather overwhelmed and it makes me sad. You put into words the brokenness we all seem to feel. The media in all it’s forms are destroying calm acceptance that used to be the norm and the lawyers have destroyed all common sense. It’s all about rights now and not responsibilities. The plentiful table is being plundered without replenishing. It is not sustainable for us all to keep taking at the same time, without all putting back or taking turns, or the table will be bare, there will be nothing left.

    The goals you highlight are obviously what are ideal but can never achievable. Even In wildlife, when the prey escapes it’s hunter we are glad, but then we are sorry for it’s young who then starve. When it has a successful kill we are then pleased, but sorry for the hunted. The most egalitarian claims in societies and cultures world wide, are those who exert more control over the individual. Our Lord knew that we would waste the chance of Utopia.

    When everything is too overt, and too many pulls are made on the whole, it upsets equilibrium. This is apparent in nature now with our pollution, and overload on natural resources, destroying the planet. Life works on a natural distribution curve. There are always going to be those at edges. The majority keep it’s stability. Dignity comes from within, from personal discipline and hard work . When issues like colour, gender or sexuality become an overt mantra, it creates anger and prejudice where there wasn’t any. We are not gods. We cannot change and modify the way babies are made, the colour of our skin, the food that we grow, the resources we overconsume without negatively affecting our world.

    We all want to hang out with our own. It is natural to prefer the company of those who we share most of our likes and dislikes. This is honed down to one, in marriage. This union is proven to give the most stability to a community.

    It is not wrong to prefer some people to others. It is normal, as it is to be more comfortable with those most similar to us. The wrong here has become when those outside one’s group are deemed wrong for merely being in another.

    We have a right to expect those within a group to monitor and modify excesses from their own in the wider community. It is understood why the claim is black lives matter, but this aggressive campaign takes no account of those of all colour, race and gender who have equally experienced prejudice and been overlooked. It takes no accountability and hears no blame of their own who have created and perpetuated these wrongs in the past. We should expect controls and responsibility within all groups. Most people struggle as they go through life. The ‘Happy ever After’ is a dream for a community and only achieved if every soul is content.

    Our TV and media contually reflects anger and minority and extremes. The interviewee is always ‘angry’ about something. This and it’s daily violence and continual criticism, aggression towards those in authority, is proving to destroy stability especially as the young take this as their lead and not from the chuch or their elders.

    As you rightly say, and remind us of the commandments, it is only love that is the answer. Thank you and God bless you.

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  3. “Finlandia” comes to mind, as it often does these days. “This is my song, O God of all the nations. A song of peace, for lands afar and mine…”

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  4. Sometimes loving our neighbor means not being an enabler of someone who is the architect of his/her own misfortune. This sounds harsh, and perhaps it is, but it very well may be the best way to help someone.

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