The collect and readings for the Sixth Sunday after Easter may be found here. The appointed gospel is John 14:15-21.
If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, to be with you forever. This is the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, because he abides with you, and he will be in you. I will not leave you orphaned; I am coming to you. In a little while the world will no longer see me, but you will see me; because I live, you also will live. On that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you. They who have my commandments and keep them are those who love me; and those who love me will be loved by my Father, and I will love them and reveal myself to them.
“I will not leave you orphaned.” At some point we all want or even need to hear these words. They speak directly to some of our greatest fears and challenges; abandonment and isolation, loneliness, vulnerability. They remind us that we are not destined to walk this earth without an identity or direction. We do not stand alone.
To be sure there are seasons of life, moments, when the transitions, changes, and tragedies can leave us feeling as orphans. Whether spoken or unspoken the questions begin. What will I do now? Where do I go? What happens next? Who will love, nurture, and guide me? Who stands on my side? What will become of me? Those are the orphan’s questions. Those are the questions I imagine running through the heads and hearts of the disciples into gospel.
It is the last supper. Disciples have been fed, feet have been washed, the betrayer has left. It is night, dark, and Jesus announces he is leaving. The one for whom they left everything now says he is leaving. “We do not know where you are going. How can we know the way?” “Show us the Father.” More orphan questions.
I am sure our two sons felt the same way the night my wife and I told them that she and I would be moving to Tennessee for three years of seminary. “What will we do? What will happen to us?” The feeling of being an orphan is real. Certainly the orphan’s questions are buried deep within the death and destruction that blew through Joplin, Missouri. “Are we left alone? Nothing but content for the evening news? How do we move forward and rebuild? Who will go with us? What’s next?”
Anyone who has ever loved and lost – a spouse, a child, a friend, security, hope – knows the orphan’s questions.
We fear becoming orphaned. That fear points to the deeper reality that by ourselves we are not enough. It is not, however, because we are deficient. It is rather because we were never intended or created to be self-sufficient. We were never intended to stand alone as individuals. We were created to love and be loved, to live in relationship as persons giving themselves to each other, to dwell, abide, and remain within each other even as the Father is in Jesus and Jesus is in the Father; the antithesis of being orphaned.
“I will not leave you orphaned.” That is the promise. Regardless of the circumstances of our lives, storms, death, separation, we have never been and will never be orphaned by God. How strange that must have sounded to the disciples. In the same conversation Jesus tells them that he is leaving and coming. Leaving and coming sure sound like opposites. If we are not careful we will get struck trying to reconcile or figure this out. It is not, however, something to figure out. It is rather a means to see and live in a different away. It is the same thing I tried to teach my younger son when, every time I wrote or spoke with him, I would say, “Even though we are apart I will never leave you.”
Leaving and coming. Presence and Absence. These must be held in tension, not as mutually exclusive. That is what Jesus has set before us in today’s gospel. That tension confronts us with the question of whether Jesus, for us, is a past memory or a present reality, a sentimental story that makes us feel good or a living experience that challenges, guides, and nurtures our life.
According to Jesus the answer to that question is determined by love that is revealed and fulfilled in keeping his commandments. The commandment to love our neighbor as ourselves, to love our enemies, to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength. Whose feet do we wash and whose feet to ignore? What are the boundaries of love?
Do we keep the commandments? Is our love growing, expanding, transformative of ourselves and the world? If so Jesus is probably for us a present reality and we know the fulfillment of his promise that we are not left orphaned. If, however, we are not loving so much. If we remain self-enclosed and isolated we relegate ourselves and each other to the orphanages of this world. Jesus’ promise is still real and he remains faithful we simply have not claimed it for ourselves.
Keeping the commandments is our access to Jesus’ promise that we will not be left orphaned. Keeping the commandments does not make Jesus present to us. It makes us present to the already ongoing reality of Jesus’ presence. The commandments do not earn us Jesus’ love they reveal our love for him, a love that originates in his abiding love and presence within us.
Every time we expand the boundaries of our love we push back the orphanages of this world creating space within us where the Father and Jesus make their home.
“I will not leave you orphaned.” Over and over, day after day, regardless of what is happening in our lives that is Jesus’ promise. We have not been abandoned. Do not abandon yourselves or others to the orphanages of this world. Love with all that you are and that you have even as the Father and Jesus love us with all that they are and that they have.
thanks for the encouragement 🙂
God’s peace be with you,
Wow! This sermon is right on target for me this day! I am sitting here crying because I am making huge sacrifices to lose weight, and today I gained .2 lbs!!! That sounds so small, I know, but a lot of “baggage” is a part of my relationship with food. And part of it is tied in with feeling “orphaned” as a child! Your last paragraph is one I will print out and keep in front of me for the next few days, Mike. Thank you so much!
Jan, I am glad the post was on target for you. We experience being orphaned in so many, varied, unexpected, and often surprising ways. Christ promises that experience is not the ultimate or defining reality for us.
what about loving all that is in us? All our parts? And if I am not keeping all the commandments, can I still know and experience God’s love? I lie sometimes–I wonder if everyone does. We all sin. So how keeping the commandments be the way to experience God, when we all fail to keep them?
Anna, I agree that loving ourselves is part of Jesus’ commandments. We often tend to view commandment keeping as either yes or no; we did or we did not. It seems more accurate and realistic to view commandment keeping and love as a process of growth. It is more qualitative than quantitative. So, yes, we all sin and we all fail to fully keep the commandments. But we also repent, we get back up, we try again. We are both commandment keepers and commandment breakers at the same time. To the extent we live repentant live, seek the virtues, and purify our hearts we more and more open ourselves to the love and presence of God.
I hope this helps a bit. Thank you for reading my blog and asking your good questions.
I am so thankful to have read this today. My dad died when I was young, and my mom was often sick. Very sick. I was always afraid of the day that she would have to leave me, and I would be left as an orphan. That day happened a couple of weeks ago. I am no longer a child, I am a grown woman old enough to have children of my own. Nonetheless, when my mom died on May 30, I felt orphaned.
The Lord woke me this morning. I had an intense desire to pray. I prayed and began to reflect on His words “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” I had an urge to understand it more fully and I did an internet search, which ultimately led me here.
Your words provided great comfort to me this morning. My parents have both passed, but I am not orphaned. My heavenly Father loves me. He is guiding, protecting, and caring for me. He did not leave me comfortless.
Thank you. May God continue to bless you and your ministry.
Angela, I am so sorry for your loss. May your mother’s soul, and the souls of all the departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. I am glad you found my blog and I hope the post was helpful. I hope and pray that the sense of being an orphan gives way to the sure knowledge that you are, always have been, and always will be God’s beloved daughter.
God’s peace and blessings be with you.
I had a word during meditation yesterday “I will not leave you orphans” and recognized that verse from the Gospel of John. When I searched it on the internet it led me here. It was exactly what I needed to hear; reminded me to think beyond my feelings and understand them in relation to my Heavenly Father who has been revealed to me through Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. ” I pray that they may know that you sent me and that your love for them is as it is for me” Jn. 17:23.
Jesus prayed on the night before He died that we would know that the Father’s love for us was the same as it was for Jesus!
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That’s a good you received and what you say at the end of your comment. Yes, God has for us the same love as God has for Jesus.
Peace be with you,
Fr. Mike, I am moved by your sermons. When my father died 22 years ago, my whole world was rocked and I felt orphaned. This text became my daily bread, which I cried, prayed and beseeched God. I am not sure when the pain of feeling orphaned eased. Every word written in this reflection, speaks to how I felt then and the hope I held on to.
God bless you
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Khaliah, thank you for reading my blog. Grief is a long slow process. I suspect we are always moving through it. I’m glad the reflection is meaningful to you.
Peace be with you,